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Bondage for Beginners

A very special young man has asked me for some advice on how to act as a bondage top. He’s normally a submissive and wanted some advice on how to give someone a really good session.  So in no particular order – here are some tips for beginners!  🙂

What they can’t see…

Having the sub blindfolded is a great way to take control. It gives you a number of advantages – it ensure that your authority is increased, it makes the sensations being experienced by the boy more intense and it gives you time to work out what you are doing. If you aren’t sure what to do next, then the blindfold buys you time to work it out. What you interpret as “thinking time” the boy will interpret as “anticipation of what is to come”.

Have a Safeword and Communicate…

Having a safeword (I used RED) is a really good way to ensure that you can go harder – knowing the boy can always stop it if he can’t take any more. I like to ask boys a lot of questions, such as “does that feel good?”, “Do you want more?”, “How do you feel?”, etc. It’s a really good way of judging how they are feeling and if you can do more (e.g. more pressure on their balls, slap them more, push their ass wider, etc.).

Take Control…

Do a few things early in the session to demonstrate that you’re in control – squeeze their balls, slap their ass, twist their nipples. You really want to emphasise that you’re in control. Start slowly and gradually turn up the heat.

Bondage…

It’s good to restrict their movement in some way. If you don’t have proper cuffs then rope or cling wrap can work very well. Just make sure you have scissors available! Making someone suck cock on their knees with their wrists bound does make them more submissive.

Make them pleasure you…

Good subs will want to make you feel good – so work out what that is. Do you like to have your cock sucked, balls licked, back massaged, ass rimmed, butt worked over. Take a minute to think about what you really like having done – and then have them do it. Praise them if they do it well – and punish them if they make a mistake.

Be creative…

Use things around the house – run a paintbrush over his body or use a necktie as a blindfold. Wrap interesting things around his cock and balls (power cords, xmas tree lights, etc..). Spank him with unusual things (power cords, a branch from a tree, etc.). Make sure you ask about whether you can leave marks first. 😉

Finally – take it easy. Often some of the most brutal masters have been subs themselves and assume that other subs can take it as well as they can…communicate and gradually turn up the kinks. The blindfold will makes things more intense – so don’t feel you have to start too hard. For example, start with playfully tweaking his nipples and monitor his reactions (and ask questions) are you begin to treat them more brutally. It’s very easy for a first time master to go too far – so take it slowly and don’t rush. 

So good luck son, and let me know how it goes.  😉

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

One Comment

  1. Very useful guide, I really enjoyed reading it!