A lot of guys fantasize about being gang banged. One hot boy who I once fucked roughly for a solid hour told me online:

“One day when you think I’m ready you can invite a second top if you want.”

I replied

“Oh I think you can you can handle more than two”

He responded:

“You think?”

And then I told him the secret about gang bangs. Something that all bottom boys should know.  Something they should teach in gay school. And it is simply this: it doesn’t make that much difference whether one guy is fucking you for an hour or three guys are taking turns for an hour. At the end of the day there will have been cock in you for sixty minutes.

However, there are two differences. First, tops tend to want to show off in front of other tops and will fuck harder than they normally would in order to demonstrate their fucking skills and prowess. Second, rotating tops mean they might be able to fuck a bit harder as they get a rest between pounding the boy’s ass.

The counter argument is that when you have a bunch of horny guys fucking a boy they tend to get very excited and the session may not last as long. Gang bangs tend to be concentrated bursts of fun.

So if you are a bottom boy who can take a long hard fuck from a guy you are probably ready to get gang fucked.

The question is then whether that is what you want.  The above discussion is about the fact your ass can probably take a gang banging if you can cope with a long hard pounding from a hung top. But is it really what you desire – and if so, what kind of gang bang is right for you?

The concept of a gang bang can be hot but it is important to understand that not all gang bangs are created equal. In this, as in all things, context is vital.

Let’s look at two scenarios.

Scenario A:
Picture a young guy in a sling. He is negative and wants to be fucked raw. He doesn’t give a fuck about his personal safety. He hasn’t bothered to research things like safe words. The tops don’t care about him. They slap him around, hurt him, make him scream. No one cares about his pleasure and it is essentially someone allowing himself to be raped.  He might have marks, his ass might be torn. As a fantasy it will sound hot to some people but the reality isn’t very desirable.

Scenario B:
Contrast the above with a scenario where you have a young bottom boy in the sling. A group of tops who have been carefully selected, rubber up and fuck him. They start slow and make sure his ass gets to the point where it is open and no longer fighting the invading cocks before they start to slam him seriously. They check on him and make sure he is ok. It’s allowed to hurt but they get him to agree to it and monitor how close to his limit they are getting. A hot time is had by all. There is communication between the tops and the boy.

Now that doesn’t meant that Scenario B couldn’t involve some pain, or some slapping around, or the boy being pissed on, or throat fucked. The actual sexual acts and kink that are undertaken are in many ways irrelevant to the point that I’m trying to make. It isn’t WHAT happens that is as important as the context in which it happens. The attitude of all parties is actually the main determinant of the type of gang bang. You want the guys, both tops and the bottom boy, to be a fraternity, a team, a group who is making sure that everyone is getting pleasure.

So what is my ideal type of gang bang? Think of a hot young guy in the sling. He is about 19 and has a level of experience and is used to being fucked.  The tops know and care about the bottom boy in the sling and want to make sure he has a good time.

Having a good time doesn’t meant it won’t hurt and it doesn’t mean it won’t be rough, but it does mean that the bottom boy will walk out there with a smile on his face. They can even do some play acting and pretend that they are doing a gang fuck that is consistent with Scenario A, but make sure it is safe, sane and consensual.

A good bottom will interact with the tops and increase everyone’s fun. A bottom boy can influence the tone of the gang bang significantly. If you are being topped by a group of guys make sure that you are reassuring them you can take it, praising them for their fucking efforts, and helping them set the pace. Some possible lines for you to say include:

“Oh yes – that’s amazing”
“Harder please”
“Fuck me harder”
“You’re so amazing at fucking – you’re going to have to go slow for a while”
“I want you to come on my chest”

And of course, high quality moaning and groaning.

Tops like praise. If you like what they are doing with their cocks in your ass, tell them. If you preferred them doing another way, beg them to do that some more.

After a good gang fuck I don’t want the bottom boy walking out of there tired and broken, in fear and scared. I want the bottom boy to walk out of there sore, but happy and satisfied. I want him to walk tall with a sense of pride and confident he has given the tops a great time. I want him to feel he has achieved something significant. I want him to feel the world is at his feat. I want him to be smiling.

I like gang bangs that are life affirming rather than soul destroying.

So how does my attitude to gang bangs relate to my adoration of Fickstutenmarkt? At first glance, it seems contradictory.

For a Mare, how can a bunch of horny guys fucking them anonymously be a shared fraternal experience?

The reason Fickstutenmarkt becomes a shared fraternal experience is because of the excellent event organization. Mares often bond with other mares. They chat with them before hand. They hear and smell them being fucked along side them. In tight spaces they feel them being thrust into right along side each other. They sooth eachother – nuzzling eachother as one or both of them are pounded.  They talk in the Mare rest area. The achievements of Mares are celebrated by naming a mare of the month – a powerful symbol to the mares that they are valued. The stable helpers ensure that mares are looked after and feel safe.

I think that tops admire bottom boys who ate willing to give themselves over to that kind of trial and there is generally absolute respect by the Stallions for the Mares.

When you think about it, a mare at Fickstutenmarkt is a bit like Olympian. Just to be there is an honor. It shows you have trained hard and know how to take cock. Even if you aren’t voted Mare of the Month, you are victorious from just having made it there. It took training, desire and self confidence.

In the ancient Olympics, people often competed nude and women weren’t allowed to take part or observe. Think of Fickstutenmarkt as the true modern Olympics.

I’ve written previously about the time Sacha got gang banged – and he never saw the tops. While he might not have seen there, he heard them reassure him, felt them tousle his hair affectionately and had them thank him afterwards. One of the better gang bangs I’ve ever organised. Sacha said that he still remembers the feeling of satisfaction he had driving home. Now THAT’S good sex.