I met a fascinating boy this weekend. Jason Carlisle is nineteen, adorable and kinky. I asked him if he would write about his first polyamorous relationship. While ultimately it did not endure I thought you’d be interested in hearing about it. Hopefully Jason will become a regular Soxster contributor – it will be fun to watch his development as a teenage kinkster.

His description of falling asleep on the phone reminded me of something that happened tonight – where PB fell asleep while he was on the phone to me. It was so fucking adorable as we talked and his responses got more cuddly and softer until he fell asleep. It’s weird telling someone who is asleep on the other end of the phone that you love them – but you can’t just hang up. 😛 It’s a nice thought that my words might have penetrated his dreams.  🙂

Anyway, back to Jason, the kinky teen:

So 2015 was a crazy year for me, I just left school things were out in the open and I was ready to try new things. I was single at the time but my best friend, let’s call him Dan, was dating Ash. Ash lived in another state and most of the time you would find them Skyping for hours and hours on end. They watched Netflix together online, they’d fall asleep online, it was all really cute. 

I soon found out that Ash had another boyfriend – Tom. Now at first I was quite angry at the concept but I really couldn’t even figure out why. They were all happy and completely content with it. Polyamory wasn’t something I had ever thought about myself but it made sense. Dan had someone to look after Ash whilst he wasn’t there, who could make sure when he was sick that there was someone there when Dan couldn’t be. It was all very cute and they all got along. 

It wasn’t long before I started seeing more of Ash and Tom pop up on my social media. It was very confronting a lot of the time and I was so confused. I liked the idea but I was still at battle with myself as to why I felt like that. It wasn’t until Ash visited Dan I understood. 

Dan invited me over for drinks to meet Ash and it was fantastic. We started out with dinner and a movie and we moved on and just had massive deep and meaningful conversations until 2 am in the morning. It was then that things got a little frisky, Ash and Dan started making out and I didn’t really know what to do with myself until Ash paused, pulled me over and kissed me. That’s when it started and we ended up having surprisingly great sex on a single mattress. 

After it was all done and we had cleaned up the quite substantial mess, we sat up and talked again. We just talked about a whole bunch of random things. I realised I was asking a lot about Tom after we had all Skyped each other earlier in the night.  

The next day I started messaging Tom, kinda flirting kinda not but my god was he flirting back. It was like puppy love again except this person was actually so sweet and could take care of himself and others with what seemed to be ease. We went on for two months of us doing the good morning texts and FaceTime calls that lasted 15 hours as we fell asleep. I never even realised it, but I wanted to be a part of it. I wanted to be a part of this big family and it felt right. 

I ended up moving states and moved in with Tom and it was amazing. Ash was at uni all the time but I could be there for Tom when he needed someone. I wasn’t dating Ash but he was like my best friend. And I’d talk to him about everything. Of course it was hard sometimes, harder than usual, you have to make sure that people are getting what they need from each other and sometimes that’s very hard. 

We really were like family and friends and would honestly do anything for each other. I’d never felt so safe and secure than I did when I was in my first poly relationship. It was one of the best things I’ve ever done and I definitely would do it again.